Wounded Healer Blog
You Don’t Have to be Alone
In 2007 when I had my first bout with cancer, I was in Maryland. I had lots of friends around me but not immediate family. I knew my friends were my secondary family but it was difficult for me to reach out to these friends for help (i.e. Grocery shopping, if I felt weak, or needed a drive to the hospital). One of my friends came to me after I had completed treatment and said I had been very selfish. I was appalled by her statement but she clarified by stating that I always volunteered to help her when she was down but I was not allowing her to be generous. How true she was! So many times we don’t feel we deserve the generosity of others.
This time as I am going through the treatment, I am around a wonderful, giving family, particularly my sister and brother-in-law. Both have dropped whatever they were doing to help me and without any hesitancy. Great people! They have let me know that I am not facing this cancer alone and a great weight has been lifted from my shoulders.
Carl Jung coined this term “Wounded Healer” as a healer should heal themselves before healing others.
I think this term fits me and has for a long time. It’s not just about the cancer that has returned but about life’s journey and I have been very lucky to have been an experimenter of life. Each of the events in my life has allowed me to relate better to my clients. These entail childhood issues, relationship issues, divorce. In March 2014, I became paralyzed and was immobilized as I was trying to get to my car to go to work. I called out to a neighbor for help, but in my weakened condition, it took several moments for him to find me and to get me help. During the wait, I was pleading for help. I didn’t want to die and was grateful once the emergency personnel arrived. What a big surprise I had that I wasn’t ready for death.
Since that time I have had other instances of medication caused thoughts of suicide and struggled to fight against those thoughts. I’m not ready to leave this planet! There is so much more for me to do.
So one of the things I have learned is that life is precious and it is important not to waste what time we have here. Perhaps I had become complacent and needed to have that deeper understanding of the importance of life.
In my next blog I will talk about allowing others to be there for me.
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone gives you courage” Lao Tzu
Using Hypnosis To Forget
I receive many emails and calls asking if hypnosis can help to forget someone who is no longer in their lives. They have separated from someone by divorce, a break-up, death, moving away, or any other way which put distance in between. Unfortunately, hypnosis cannot help you to forget. Any memory which is attached to a strong emotion is very difficult to remove from our thoughts.
Hypnosis can help to look at the relationship from a different perspective, such as moving on from a bad relationship can be better. Or perhaps you can have a hypnosis session about forgiving the person for hurting you. Another hypnotic session can be about grieving the loss of something you wish you had. And sometimes, the session can be about gaining confidence that you can attract another person into your life.
How lucky can I be to be doing what I love to do with the skills and abilities that I have learned over the years to help others. It was 17 years ago when I went to a friend who had recently learned hypnosis to help me to quit smoking. I was so fascinated how quickly hypnosis worked and wanted to learn everything I can. I haven’t stopped learning, this is an amazing profession. Hypnosis has helped me to be a better person and during the time I had cancer helped me to move through the emotional times and the side effects of the chemotherapy and radiation therapy.
I am grateful for the wonderful clients that I have seen over the last 15 years who have placed their trust in me to tell me their stories and to reveal who they are. It is so fulfilling to watch my clients transform from feeling hopeless to knowing they now have the tools to change into the person they want to be, from experiencing mind and/or body pain and leave feeling relief of the release of the discomfort, of knowing that there is something wrong with them to experiencing confidence in their being. I love that my fabulous clients feel empowered that they are the change agent to their lives, and they are the ones responsible for their choices and decisions, they were just needing the tools to do that.
These same clients have felt welcomed into my office where they feel safe and secure in the non-clinical setting. My clients find that they will experience compassion and acceptance here.
There are bad apples in all professions and hypnosis is not an exception. I love a well- informed client who chooses me as their hypnotist and is not bullied into signing a 6-12 session contract without first getting to know what each session will do and why they specifically need 6-12 sessions. I believe in a client-centered practice where my clients do not fit into a cookie cutter session.
Once again, how lucky am I? In Access Consciousness we have a saying “how does it get any better than this”!
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